Depending on the therapist you choose to work with, you will be treated using different types of theoretical approaches that are constructed to help you work through the problems that are concerning you in your life. Some therapists find that using a solution based theory is most beneficial, while others prefer structural therapy. For Linda James, M.Ed., M.S., a marriage and family therapist in Seattle, Washington using the systems theory approach to counseling has had positive results for her many clients.
What is the systems theory?
Scientifically speaking, the systems theory centers around the organization of complex groups, and how each part of the group influences the whole. It focuses on the process that exchanges material, energy, people and information with its environment.
What is the system theory approach to therapy?
As James explains, being trained in the systems theory means that she helps her patients look at their current and past family relationships. By taking a step back and discussing your role in previous relationships, you can analyze your role in your current relationship.
What specific areas are you looking at?
In this type of therapy, you will be looking for patterns and styles that are reoccurring in all of your relationships. Some questions you and your therapist may focus on are:
- Who are your relationship role models?
- Were you exposed to healthy relationships as a child?
- Are you vocal in expressing your concerns?
- Are you usually a leader in the group?
- Do you feel that all your needs are being met in your relationships?
- What is your love language?
Noticing these trends can be quite revealing, and it is a great way to gain awareness of your habits. Knowing how you act in relationships can prepare you for choices and changes in the future. How we treat one another and how we allow others to treat us, explains James, can open up a conversation that leads us to recognize how we can attain the love we need.
Is this just for married couples?
Absolutely not. Anyone can benefit from learning about how they operate in a relationship. If you are looking for a long-term commitment, it may even be best to evaluate the way you treat others and how you act in groups now, so that you can make changes in your role prior to entering a new relationship.
Recently, this approach has also been used in career counseling as well. Learning how you operate in a work environment can help you pinpoint where you need improvement, and can ultimately help you transition to new fields and positions.
How does this work for family therapy?
The systems theory in family therapy works to evaluate the family as a whole group, instead of picking apart individual traits. It emphasizes factors such as relationship and communication patterns to see where the strengths and weaknesses lie. Problems are then treated by changing the way the entire system works, rather than trying to change a specific member of the family.
